When I talk to people, I tend to look at them straight in the eye. The other day, I went out with some people after yoga class, and happened to sit directly across from someone with a lazy eye. As I was talking to him, I kept trying to figure out exactly which part of his face I should look at. I first tried concentrating on his mouth, but that felt weird. Then I tried casually looking at his eyes, but started thinking, "crap, he's going to think I'm rude for looking at his lazy eye." The trouble was that, once I looked at his eyes, I couldn't look away, and I really got screwed up and confused about which eye was looking at me...because it appeared that NEITHER of them were looking at me. Then in the middle of my conversation, I started tapering off because I lost my concentration. I thought he stopped listening to me because it appeared he was bored and his eyes were drifting to somewhere else. The awkward part was that he always seemed to be waiting for me to finish what I was saying because he just kept quiet. I seriously could NOT keep up a coherent conversation with this person because I just got so confused with his communication signals. I tried so hard to concentrate on a part of his face to avoid looking at his eyes, but it kept throwing me off that I just couldn't concentrate in general. Perhaps it would be better if next time I sat beside him rather than directly in front of him.
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